Feeling anxious before sex is normal. But feeling so nervous that you cannot have sex, or enjoy sex, can mean that you have sexual performance anxiety. A person who has this anxiety condition, is often overcome by a fear that he will be unable to perform either before (such as foreplay) or during the sexual encounter.
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Now I left off in the last article speaking about the dangers of not addressing or tending to stressors and anxiety when it comes up,
Often a metaphor that I use in clinic is that we want to deal with things as they come up just as if the analogy of a spark and a burning building. If you were a firefighter and you had a chance to fight a fire at the first sign of a spark, and you were able to snuff that out then and there versus a building that was a raging inferno which would you choose? Well, of course, you'd be
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Depending on the severity of the perceived danger, the threshold may be triggered, setting off alarm bells in your conscious mind. The alarm sets off a reaction in the autonomic nervous system from which actions are not consciously directed, but are regulated by the unconscious mind, or the century control, and you are triggered into the fight, flight or freeze situation.
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