Male Sex Performance Anxiety (MSPA) and Erectile Dysfunction (ED) Article 2 of 3. The link between MSPA and Panic attacks.

January 18, 2023 Matthew Tweedie

Feeling anxious before sex is normal. But feeling so nervous that you cannot have sex, or enjoy sex, can mean that you have sexual performance anxiety. A person who has this anxiety condition, is often overcome by a fear that he will be unable to perform either before (such as foreplay) or during the sexual encounter.

Series: Male sexual performance anxiety (MSPA) and erectile dysfunction (ED) Article 1 of 3. BODY IMAGE ISSUES

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Studies have shown that MSPA is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions in the world today, with up to 25% of men affected by the condition. Male sexual performance anxiety is primarily the result of negative thoughts, which are mainly caused by different physical or psychological factors. These include erectile dysfunction, medication side effects, insecurity about being able to please their partners, and a very poor personal body image.

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The previous parts of this series have established something important: retroactive jealousy is not a problem of thinking. It is a conditioned nervous system response, generated through unconscious emotional learning, and maintained through a self-reinforcing loop that conscious effort cannot easily break. The approaches that are most likely to resolve it are ones that work at the level where it actually operates.

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